Every introvertverted child is an angel sent by God

Many parents always want their introverted children to become extroverted.

Most of time, we will consider the child's introvert as "obedient", but when the child grow up, in the school, and gradually this kind of character is regarded as unpromising character. So we began to think of ways to change it, for example, forcing the child say hello to relatives, contact strangers etc.

Our purpose is simple, that is, let the children become extroverted.

However, this is the wrong way! Cherish the introverted children, do not force them to become extroverted.

Introverted is a natural temperament.

One of my college classmates, told me his "tragic" experience. When he was a child, in order to let him play with other children, his mother even took his book away, pushed him out the door, told him: "all day at home, no associates ability will you get. Just go out to play with the group of children ."

For some time, he did not know where his father heard a child out of the way to exercise, is to take him to participate in various parties, dinner, and will go for a while, standing at the door of the room one by one called uncle, aunt. Every time let him take the trouble, that year he was 12 years old.

Now he is still introverted, but in the face of these friends we can talk; he still likes to be alone, but also did not appear parents worried about the "excluded", "can not find the object of marriage", "no longer in society Survive "these situations.

In fact, for these practices of the parents, the spinach teacher is understandable: most parents like lively and outgoing children, hoping that they can be unfamiliar in the unfamiliar occasions, Hold live scenes.

Especially in today's "social first" environment, we seem to prefer eloquent outgoing people.

But just as Harvard University professor of neuroscience Professor Karl Schwartz said: those who show shy introverted children, even if they grow up, their character is still introverted. introversion is a person with a lifetime of personality traits and spiritual temperament, is caused by physiological reasons.

So for parents, all want children to become introverted efforts, can only be wasted.

Introversion does not change its nature with age.

Since the child's introversion can not be changed, it is better to change our attitude towards the child's introversion. To know: controverted children, their own world, it has been exciting enough.

Many people may feel that the child's introversion is a defect and needs to be corrected.

actually not. According to statistics, more than 70% of the world's success, mostly introverted, many engineers, scientists, philosophers and writers have introverted personality, such as Bill Gates, "God" Buffett, Edison ... ...

Outward character is vulnerable to people's welcome, and introverted personality also has its own advantages:

Introverted child born will be alone, without you for his arrangements for the full, he has something to do, can do things are not panic, no heart is not empty;

Introverted children know how to comply with the rules, because they do not want to do that destruction of the rules and was concerned about the people;

Introverted children are better off, because they care more about the feelings of others, more love to listen, and more trustworthy.

It should be noted that: introverted is not exactly equal to shy, inner people tend to be more sensitive to the outside world, so in a quiet environment more comfortable.

If the parents reverse the child's introversion, trying to reverse the child's personality, will lead to their nervous, but also let the children feel inferior to their own introverted personality.

So there is no need to be able to correct, introverted is God's gift, should be responsive and give full play to his innate character advantage.
Do not need to change, we have to do so

We do not need to change any character of the child

1. Admit the child unconditionally

No matter what kind of character your child is, first of all please accept unconditionally, because he is the world's most unique presence.

Do not try to change the child's personality, let him do what they do not want to do. To know that we do not like, perhaps it is precisely the child's most valuable, the most unique quality of it

2. Do not label your child at will

"You are too introverted, can not take the initiative to point it," "boy so introverted, how to do in the future" ...

Please put away the words, said the child "introverted", will give him a mark on the heart: ah, I was introverted people. Although I used the word throughout, but in front of other people, I may be more stressed: he is just a little slow, need to adapt to the next.

3. Give your child enough time

For an introverted child, it may be difficult to say hello. Mom and Dad do not force him into the strange world, you can squat down patience to guide the child. And then follow the child's rhythm slowly.

Every time I bring my children out to meet acquaintances, will mimic the tone of the child greeting "Wang aunt good!" "Lee grandmother good!" Over time, they monasteries, followed by shouting.

However, there are also do not want to call with a smile instead, because I said really do not want to say hello nothing, nodded, smiling, but also polite performance.

So, cherish you have an introverted child, tell them that you appreciate their introversion, because introversion is not only a fortune, but also their distinctive character, is worthy of respect and understanding of the quality.

Regardless of the child's introverted or outgoing, worth mentioning, as long as they can accept themselves, had a happy happy life, this is not what you want to see you?

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